Unconditional Positive Regard

I am worthy.

I am loved.

I am to be sought after.

I am respectable.

I am caring.

I am gentle.

I am passionate.

I am beautiful.

I am worthy.

I am brave.

I am smart.

I am wise.

I am worthy.

I am talented.

I am strong.

I am able.

I am worthy.

I am compassionate.

I am chosen.

I am lifted high.

I am praised.

I am a treasure.

I am worthy.

I am priceless.

I am unique.

I am a hard worker.

I am sincere.

I am worthy.

It may be because I am prideful, self-coincided, or simply don't care but I hate it when people use their blogposts as an outlet for journaling. So, whenever I post I try to relate it back to the audience. I either do this by (yes, sharing my own journey but with) questions directed to you-how would you handle such & such, what does such & such mean to you and so on. I HIGHLY encourage feedback...which I haven't gotten much of...it doesn't stop me from writing but still...I am looking for a conversation here, people!

So go back now and re-read those "I am's". As well as, make your own list.

So I have been hearing a lot about this "Unconditional Positive Regard".

It is probably because I'm a Human Services Major...

Do you know what this word means?

"term popularly believed to have been coined by the humanistic psychologist Carl Rogers (see notes below), is basic acceptance and support of a person regardless of what the person says or does."

-taken from Bing/Wikipedia

Mostly we hear this word in regards to how we treat others.

But, what if we applied to ourselves?

(Hmm...I suppose that would be called "high self-esteem" wouldn't it?

Or would it?)

What thoughts do you have towards yourself and why?

A lot of times I have negative thoughts towards my self...

especially lately.

My thoughts can range from:

they don't like me to I wish I didn't have to be here anymore.

How do you combat or deal with your thoughts towards yourself?

I am not one, if you haven't figured already,

to say that the answer lies within one's self.

{clarification: I do not believe we can be healed, completed,

content, justified within ourselves...I do believe that there is something in us

that can in ways direct us to the real answer...

which in Jesus.}

Before, anyone taps out

let me share a quote from a well-known therapist

“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it -- I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know -- but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me. However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.”

― Virginia Satir

This is a very Humanistic approach of one's self.

and whether I agree with this or not, I would like to ask:

When is the last time you gave yourself a self-talk?

What did you say?

When is the last time you really appreciated who you were?

What keeps you from having Unconditional Positive Regard?

When is the last time you said,

"I AM WORTHY"?

So that part of me keeping me from the True Answer,

the True Solution...

is the part which speaks who I am.

I haven't gone to church in a long time,

but one of my lovely friend's told me to look a particular online sermon.

I would like to share it with you now.

The Crossing-The Genesis of One by Greg Holder

Then take the time to contemplate some of these thoughts,

for they are what came to my mind:

How much does God really care about me?

Would Jesus have died just for me?

What does my life mean to God, the Father?

How do I view, God the Father? Why?

How do I approach God, the Father?

If this is The Truth...if this is The Way...what am I doing with MY life?

....What are you doing with your life?....

I don't know about you,

but I'm tired...

I'm tired of living life unsatisfied.

And a HUGE part of that is being unsatisfied with myself.

LARGER, than that is being dissatisfied with my relationship with my Heavenly Father.

Are you?

I'm sick of feeling alone.

I'm tired of not being happy, unfulfilled.

I'm done with telling myself "I can't".

I'm done with punishing myself because I think I'm not worthy.

I'm done thinking that I'm the only one who feels this way.

I'm tired of thinking that I'm better off dead than living life with those who do love me.

I'm sick of coping out.

I'm done giving in to the easy road.